Sunday, April 24, 2016

Prince And My Kids

So we all know by know that the Great Purple One has left this earth, making 2016 a bad year for losing cultural icons. Whether you were a fan from afar or a diehard fan from the get-go or maybe you didn't like Prince at all, it's hard to argue his immense talent. Prince had a real gift for making music (for himself and others) and his single-syllable name will never be forgotten - hopefully.



Geez. I'm still sad about the passing of David Bowie just a few months ago. He, of course, is another multi-instrumentalist and culturally-important artist who had a decades-long, successful career for a reason.



Both men seem oddly similar in more than a few ways, like their professional metamorphoses or their inclusion of different instruments in their music. Also similarly, they both run the risk of becoming increasingly insignificant to younger generations. That's both scary and sad.

I've made sure to introduce both of my kiddos - one, aged 7, and the other, aged 19-months - to both of these iconic musical geniuses and others who fit into this exclusive club. I want them to know these influential artisans and appreciate what joy, entertainment and memories that they brought to so many.

Sure, Prince was highly sexual in his look and in a lot of his song lyrics. (I mean, who can forget the assless pant suit he wore during his 1991 MTV VMA performance of "Gett Off?" And, have you ever paid attention the song's lyrics???) Bowie was overtly sexual too back in the very early days. His androgynous period which included enormous amounts of drugs and sex is nothing you'd hear on Radio Disney these days. But, both artists made some incredibly-wonderful, memorable songs, films and other art that will never - and should never - be replicated or forgotten.

That Jan. 10 morning when I went to check my iPhone as I do when I first wake up, I, along with the rest of the world, learned of David Bowie's passing and was utterly shocked. I wasn't a huge fan back in the day and didn't know much about his very early personas (that's all changed now), but I knew that his death meant the end of an era of sorts. After I rolled out of bed, I knew that Bowie would be played in the house as soon as the kids got up. I did just that and told my daughter that the man she was listening to died that day. A bit later, my 19-month-old and I boogied to some of his more danceable hits. (While not a dance song per se, when my littlest one hears "Ashes To Ashes," he looks me in the eye and starts doing his awkward, yet extremely adorable little baby dance.)

When Prince died this week, I made sure the kids knew of his music too by playing some of my favorites when my daughter came home from school. The next morning during her school's announcements, I was proud that the staff P.A. announcer mentioned Prince's passing. She then proceeded to play very short snippets of "1999" and "Let's Go Crazy." Great songs and classics, indeed.

Good for our kids. They need to be aware of these important artists from before their time, because after all, they are a part of history. And when us oldies are gone, who will keep these iconic artists "alive?"

My oldest knows who Elvis Presley is (especially "thank ya, thank ya very much") and "Coal Miner's Daughter" is in her music collection. She and I have danced like fairies to "Dreams" by Fleetwood Mac and we're teaching her about The Beatles whenever a Beatles song comes on. I plan to keep on educating both of my kiddos about musical greats from bygone generations.


The bubblegum, overly-produced, radio-friendly garbage that's out these days will generally reign supreme to the young folk. That's fine so long as the guys and gals who paved the way for them are remembered for being the first and the best. 

Saturday, April 16, 2016

Turning 40: My Inner Struggle To Do It

Here I sit broken-hearted ...

Well, not really (and that's the beginning of one of my most favorite potty-poems). While I'm not sad, I am freaking out a bit and it's kind of escalating.

You see, I'm about to do what millions/billions have done before me and what many more will do afterwards: I'm turning 40, the big 4-0, old fart, over-the-hill, etc. It's a scary number, but really, I think 39 is scarier. You feel like every day is your last before the dreaded day that you become four decades old.

As I approach that fateful date (Aug. 31, to be exact), the staring in the magnified mirror gets longer and longer - what can I erase or change next? Is it my melasma (damn that birth control and two pregnancies)? My crooked teeth (damn me for not wearing my retainer regularly post-braces)? My sun damage on my forearms (and damn me for not wearing sunscreen for so many years)? My wide a$$ and saddlebags? (Damn me for eating those three sugar cookies last night.)

While my fear and anxiety about turning 40 heightens with each day, something else is happening. It's almost becoming a strange battle within my 39-year-old-self.

A new voice has emerged and it's saying, "Eff it. You are who you are and stop throwing money down the drain trying to erase your myriad of imperfections." This new voice isn't all peace and love and telling me to love myself for who I am. In fact, it's kind of harsh.

"There are people fighting cancer right now. There are people who are going through unimaginable losses right now. There are people struggling to make ends meet right now. There are people in dangerous and abusive relationships right now."

This alternate voice is basically saying, "You're life's pretty good, so why would you want to change it in such a soulless, superficial way?"

This same voice is also saying, "Chica, you ain't a big pop star and don't make movies for a living, so why are you trying to look like the people who do?"

She's right, you know.

I'm turning 40. I have a funny baby and a sassy seven-year-old. We live in a nice house, I'm in good health and so far, my loved ones are all still with me. Here I am desperate to stop the clock - and for what? In the grand scheme of things, it really isn't worth it and thanks to the mean b&%$#@ in my head trying to knock some sense into me, I'm starting to just not care. I'm exhausted, after all!!

While I'll always have deep-seated anxieties about my imperfections that will never go away, I'm constantly being reminded that there are more important things in life to worry about than my insecurities. Who cares that I'm not all Hollywood-looking?

Now, I'm not throwing in the towel completely. I'll still go to the gym, wear sunscreen, whiten my teeth, get a tad of onabotulinumtoxinA squirted into my forehead on occasion and test out new beauty products, but I'm not going to kill myself chasing perfection - something that I will never attain.

Don't get me wrong. Turning 40 still scares the daylights outta me and my heels will be bloody by the time I get there, due to all the digging. But, I have a lot of more important things going on in my life that I'd like to keep going for another four decades, so why worry?

Thursday, April 14, 2016

So, I'm Starting A Blog Which, I'm Certain, Will Drift Into The Abyss Of Other Mommy Blogs



So, I've been out of the news business for about a year now and I have this urge to write. 

Who cares, right? Probably no one. No one will read this and that's ok. But, I'm "doing me" as the young kids say. (I think.)

If you're into news radio and were in Houston in 2001 or in Dallas/Fort Worth from 2002 until 2015, then you may know my name. I was a street reporter for KTRH for a brief, yet wild year. Then, I headed back north to the big DFW to work on the streets for the big BAP, or WBAP. When we were bought out by Cumulus and moved to new digs, I eventually switched over to KLIF in a behind-the-scenes role as Producer of the KLIF News & Information in the Morning show. I said goodbye to radio and news last year to be a stay-at-home-mom. 

My many news adventures brought me to many different places and allowed me to cross paths with many different people. I wouldn't change those experiences for the world.








Now, I have new adventures. They're pretty fun and exciting, but totally different than my life in news. I'm no longer getting to meet dignitaries and celebs. I no longer get free rubber chicken meals in massive ballrooms. I no longer get that adrenaline rush with a breaking news story. I don't get to sit in courtroom galleries as a trial observer/reporter (and I still say that many of the trials that I've covered are FAR BETTER than your most favorite TV drama.) And, I don't get to chase tornadoes anymore or slip around on icy roads. (Thank the Lord.)

Life has definitely taken a dramatic turn these days with me turning into a SAHM. 

So, while I am for sure another SAHM needing an outlet for my thoughts, I'm surely not going to write about mom and kid stuff all the time. 

I feel like I've got a little crazy in my head that needs to get out. At times, I observe a little crazy that bears sharing too. So, that brings me to this: my blog.

While I've blogged before, I've never had my own blog. So, in a way, I kind of don't know what I'm doing. We'll see who's interested in the long term, but for now, this is just something I'm gonna do for me. (I think the kids say that too.) 

Note the old, pre-Botox and melasma Photo Booth pic. It's all I got and I hate reading things without lots of pictures.